Our paths eventually went in different directions. We lived in different cities and sort of fell out of touch for a little while, until December of 2014, when I received this beautiful message from Leah:
"Hey Julie, I just want to reach out and say "thank you". I've been following you on Facebook and reading all your posts for a while now. I found the stories of the many children and their families both heartbreaking at times, and always inspiring. I know that these helped me when Eli, my 7 month old, was diagnosed a couple of months back with Cri Du Chat, a rare genetic disorder that will affect his physical and mental development. At first, we were devastated and overwhelmed and I really want you to know that in those moments, I thought of the families I had previously read about on your blog and knew that, while there would be difficulties, there would also be love and happiness. We stay focused on Eli's abilities and the joy he brings to our lives. He is truly a light in our lives. Thanks again for everything that you do, for being an example of an amazing and dedicated mother and for the stories that helped get me through the darkest moments of this life adventure. Much love and light to you and your family. xo Leah"
Honestly, it is messages like this one that remind me every day that we are so, so blessed. Sharing our journey has helped me immensely, and being able to share the stories of other families raising children with disabilities is an absolute gift. If I am able to reach one parent, one mother or father who might be having a difficult time with a new diagnosis, if I can help them through their grief and sadness to find the light in their situation, then I am doing something right.
I am so happy to have connected with Leah again, and I am thrilled to open up this space to her today, to share the story of her sweet boy, Eli!
It was a regular doctors visit. After my mother saying that she would love to know how much he weighed more times than I could count, I made an appointment for my 4 month old son, Eli, to see a doctor for a regular check up while I was visiting home. We had returned home when Eli was 4 weeks old and were intending to stay for about 9 months, the length of my husband's parental leave from work. It was August and we were just coming out of the hottest month I can remember for St. John's. The visit to the doctor was normal. Eli was gaining weight, so the minor issues with feeding (sputtering every now and then while breastfeeding) weren't an issue in my mind. His head was smaller but nothing alarming. Again, not an issue for my doctor. When I mentioned to her that Eli had a really high pitched cry (we used to call him "The Banshee" and even wore earplugs sometimes while he cried as we changed his diaper! It was intense!), she said that she would refer us to an ENT to see if there was anything going on with his vocal cords. I remember leaving the office relieved. There had been a few things we had noticed and only talked about in passing to one another but put down to nothing more than "different kids develop differently". I talked to Chris about the referral and we went about our day. When we got home, the kids and Chris went for a nap and I got a snack and sat down to the computer to, of course, Google "high pitched cry". I wasn't expecting anything serious but the search results stopped me in my tracks and gave me a horrible sinking feeling. Cri du chat, Cri du chat, cri du chat. A rare genetic disorder that affects the short arm of 5th chromosome, manifesting in a characteristic high pitched cat-like cry, small head, small chin, trouble swallowing, epicanthal folds in the eyes, developmental delays, heart defects, and, in 10% of cases, death.
The words spilled into me and, even though I was in disbelief, they rang true so many times. What seemed like forever later, Chris got up from his nap and I shared with him what I had read. We both felt sure this was what Eli had but the clincher for us was looking at his little palm to see the single palmar crease -the single line that runs across the hands of those with syndromes like Down Syndrome and Cri du Chat. It was then that we both knew in our hearts that we were dealing with something we had not expected.
Leah has started a new site - True Heart Tribe - where she hopes to raise awareness of Cri du Chat, and connect with other families who are experiencing any kind of rare diagnosis.
She writes, "I am excited to continue to share our learnings on this path we have found ourselves on. I am meeting amazing individuals and my world view is certainly opening up and changing for the better. My goal is to shed light on the amazing qualities all people with exceptionalities have. There is no room for sympathy, sorrow or fear. Instead, this is a life of strength, happiness and determination. Join us in this journey and understand that we are all shining stars who shine the brightest when we support and respect one another, no matter what condition or situation we may find ourselves in."
Thank you, Leah for your openness and honesty in sharing your personal story. Like I said when I replied to your very touching message, "You will be surprised at how Eli changes your life. I can promise you that you will know more love and joy than you ever have before. I am actually excited for you! Sounds strange, hey?! All I can tell you is that you are going to be ok. You are going to get through this and you are going to have an awesome life! Brennen has been such a gift to me and my family, and I’m sure that Eli will be that for you. He will teach you more than you can imagine, and you will be stronger and better for it. Just love him. That’s all you have to do. The rest will happen, and you will be surprised at how capable you are to handle whatever comes your way."
You've got this, girlfriend!
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